10 Tips for Positive Discipline

Discipline is one of the hardest parts of parenting — and one of the most important. Children learn best when guidance is rooted in respect, consistency, and love. When we focus on the behavior rather than the child, set fair boundaries, and respond calmly and quickly, we help kids understand what’s expected of them while still feeling safe and valued. Discipline isn’t about punishment; it’s about teaching. These practical reminders can help you navigate challenging moments with patience and purpose, while reinforcing the positive behaviors you want to see grow.

1. Show respect, and focus on the behavior, not the child.
2. Be firm, fair, and consistent. Discipline with love.
3. Never use physical punishment. It teaches children that violence is OK.
4. Fit the consequences to the behavior. For example, if your child paints on the wall, the punishment should be to clean it off.
5. Act as soon as possible so your child associates misbehaviors with their consequences.
6. If you are very upset, cool down before you use discipline.
7. Try “time-outs”. This allows younger children to think about their actions. The best place for a time-out is an area that isn’t pleasurable for the child.
8. Keep in mind that no one is perfect. We all make mistakes.
9. Decide what behaviors you must take a stand on and which you can be more flexible about.
10. Give praise often for your child’s positive actions and qualities. This will encourage your child to continue the behavior you want.